sweet thanks all, the problem was a two part saga ha ha ha.
1) brahma was set as DMZ in router, thats no good ha ha ha
2) port was set at 27901 , witch fixed and now evrything is peachie !
thank you evryone who helped in any way
the server will be up in a few days ,once i get a new welcome window written and the mods worked out. i want to get a redirect workin too , but thats for anotherday ha ha. if you see it on the list check us out "MeryPoppinsPandaClan { Shiva or Brahma }
We have clan game practice evry friday 9pm CST " -6hr GMT " we are lookin for people to join us, come on down
i will try out the remote admin later, right now ive got too much stuf to do .
thanks all!!